A sad story from Russia

A story that just makes you take a deep breath.

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In most cases, children commit suicides because of family problems. An eleven-year-old boy hung himself several days ago in Russia’s Altay region in an attempt to make his parents quit drinking alcohol. His mother found the boy hanging on a rope in a barn.

Continue: https://ajayghayal.wordpress.com/2010/11/18/boy-hangs-himself-to-make-his-parents-stop-drinking/

Seems it is not an isolated case though.

Advocacy for death

I’ll post this piece because I was so struck by it. I guess suicide advocacy is on the rise though it still sounds like a marginal idea to me. But what was marginal 50 years ago is not so much now. Wesley Smith does an excellent job explaining the ideas.

Family-Supported Suicide Harms Society

by Wesley J. Smith March 21, 2015 | National Review – The Corner

There was once a time when friends, family, and society worked to prevent suicides. Now, if the suicidal person is ill or disabled, there is support for self-killing, with friends and family members even attending the deed.

That–and what it may portend–is the subject of my biweekly First Things. From, “Family-Support Suicide and the Duty to Die:”

Is it right or wrong to support a loved one’s suicide? This seems to be one of those issues, increasingly prevalent in our society, about which debate is not possible: The answer depends on one’s overarching worldview.

Some will believe that their duty is to support their family member’s choice, come what may. Others, including this writer, believe that supporting suicide is an abandonment that validates loved ones’ worst fears about themselves—that they are a burden, unworthy of love, or truly better off dead.

What might this phenomenon portend?

Family backing for suicide furthers the normalization of hastened death as a proper response to human suffering. Such normalization, over time, will put increasing pressure on those coping with the infirmities of age and with the debilitations of serious illnesses and disabilities to view their suicides as not only a suitable approach, but perhaps even as an obligation to those they love.

This is known in bioethics as the “duty to die,” which has been debated for years in professional discourse.

I quote some advocacy material for a duty to die:

A duty to die becomes greater as you grow older. . . . To have reached the age of, say, seventy-five or eighty years without being ready to die is itself a moral failing, the sign of a life out of touch with life’s basic realities.

This isn’t a fringe idea. Books have been written on the topic. I conclude:

No, a day won’t come when the euthanasia police kick down doors and force unwanted lethal injections upon the sick and elderly. But legal compulsion isn’t the only way to push people out of the lifeboat. The more public support families and friends give their ill or debilitated loved ones’ suicides, the greater the prospect that a moral duty to die will become culturally legitimate.

Again, I don’t see how we debate this. Either we want such a society, or we don’t.

Read more at: http://www.nationalreview.com/corner/415774/family-supported-suicide-harms-society-wesley-j-smith

(Wesley J. Smith is a senior fellow at the Discovery Institute’s Center on Human Exceptionalism and a consultant to the Patient’s Rights Council.)

Also see First Things article

He has a followup post “$200,000 per Year to Push Assisted Suicide

Seems to be two issues here, what they are doing — or is it we — and the industry it has become. Neither of which bodes well for society.

When trees become flowers and flowers become trees

I am not trying to be amusing here but there are some limits to physical abilities. Flowers can produce nectar and trees can produce nuts. (not all but you get the idea) I’m not talking physical laws of nature here but there is a point where one naturally just sticks with what one knows, or does best. And when they don’t some peculiar things take form.

Not so in the realm of human beings though. We’re more complicated than that. Psychologists will give you a soliloquy about the way humanity works — or reasons for our actions and/or emotions. But those can sometimes dismiss the stupid things people can do on a moments notice that appear to be unwarranted. Oh, we can go on indefinitely with examples of mistakes or misspeaks a person has done. Sometimes ridiculous, often absurd, and sometimes downright horrible. And in many cases, one should just stick to what one knows or does best. I’m not a psychologist, nor is this an attempt to play one.

But there are a few examples worth mention, in case you haven’t gotten my drift so far. One is the racing accident where Kevin Ward was killed by Tony Stewart’s car. Another is comments after the recent suicide of Robin Williams sparked public comment.

First up is the Kevin Ward accident. Everyone knows what happened by now. Then you have an ESPN ‘mic jockey’ making an outrageous analogy of those events with a larger chip he seems to have on his shoulder with Southerners.

“The sport has a unique culture that I’m not part of,” Cowherd concedes. “I’m not a gearhead. I’m not from the South. I’m not an eye-for-an-eye guy…. It’s a Southern delicacy. It doesn’t get ratings anywhere outside the South in the major cities.” — Breitbart

In the second, Gene Simmons of Kiss — rock and roll fame — lays into depression and suicide with his aggressively sharp tongue, without fear of offending anyone. He told listeners that he shared little compassion for their plight to harm themselves:

“For a putz 20-year-old kid to say, ‘I’m depressed. I live in Seattle.’ F–k you, then kill yourself. I never understand, because I always call them on their bluff. I’m the guy who says ‘Jump’ when there’s a guy on top of a building who says, ‘That’s it, I can’t take it anymore. I’m going to jump.’ Are you kidding? Why are you announcing it? Shut the f–k up, have some dignity and jump! You’ve got the crowd,” Simmons said. “By the way, you walk up to the same guy on a ledge who threatens to jump and put a gun to his head, ‘I’m going to blow your f—in’ head off.’ He’ll go, ‘Please don’t.’ It’s true. He’s not that insane.”–Rolling Stone

He was roundly and thoroughly rebuked from other rock stars to advocates for mental illnesses. An apology followed but that is not always the chosen prescription.

In rubbernecking the fatal Ward accident, whether speaking as a fan or family member, Ward’s aunt rants on the cause of Kevin’s death.

“Thanks for thinking of our family tony Stewart when you decided to be a d***!,” said Wendi Ward, aunt of driver Kevin Ward Jr., who was fatally struck when he exited his vehicle to confront Stewart during the caution flag of a dirt track sprint car race in upstate New York on Saturday.

Well, blaming Tony may substitute for blaming her nephew, or his actions. Much easier to lambast Stewart for his actions. Colin Cowherd blamed the Southern mentality of “eye for an eye”. (I think the phrase was around long before the South was settled)

But Cowherd’s statement is not a new phenomena, it has become increasingly common from ESPN, or sportscasters in general, to offer their opinions on all kinds of things from unemployment, to Southern philosophy, to Bob Costas’ rant about gun control. To Costas’ comments, Herman Cain tweeted:

“You tune in for a football game and end up listening to Bob Costas spewing sanctimonious dreck. #Terrible”

Amy Kremer said: “So I guess Bob Costas created a firestorm. Should have stuck to football.”

But no, I guess we are human beings, after all, and with that some feel an insatiable desire to venture outside their boundaries of expertise. Though sometimes caution is warranted.

Maybe they do it for ratings or the effects. Maybe it’s intentional, maybe they’re trying to be something they aren’t. Sometimes it seems a habit. Often they excuse it under the guise of widening awareness and public debate. Sometimes they apologize, as Simmons did, and other times they just dig in their heels to further expound on their intellect. I know, maybe if a race car mechanic opines on cross-dressing pseudo-lectuals, it will bring awareness to the problem or issue? Maybe…and maybe it will just make a fool out of himself, too?

The point is that sometimes people should stick to their abilities. No doubt its a phenomena that drives publicists and agents up a wall. And it would probably drive horticulturalists mad if it frequently occured in nurseries and greenhouses.

Sure, some may think I’m engaging in what I’m criticizing. But it is clear some of us should stick to what we know, and avoid reflexive pontifications — tempting as they might be.

What’s that, “want more cowbell” you say? Fine, then lets make it a trifecta.

We have Rob Reiner doing his impersonation of a DNC strategist. The master of political hackery masquerading as a Hollywood celebrity compares the Tea Party and Hamas.

“You look at the Congress right now in the United States. You’ve got a strong Tea Party group controlling the whole country, because they have a gridlock, they have a gridlock stranglehold on [Republican House Speaker John] Boehner. Boehner can’t make a move, and so for that reason, nothing gets brought up in the Congress.

So anytime you’re dealing with an extreme group, you cannot negotiate with them, and the way to do it is to eliminate it. With the Tea Party, you have to go through a political thing; you have to wait till 2020 to redistrict, but, uh, that is really tough stuff.”

Tough stuff? What is “tough stuff” is his twisted comparison. But that shouldn’t matter to the prescient politico, Rob Reiner. He can be forgiven as a Hollywood celeb from making such analogies. In fact, it is now almost as commonplace as sportscasters’ commentary about front-page news events. Sometimes nectar and nuts are just a bad combo.

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Rick Warren deals with grief over loss

Rick Warren returns to the pulpit after son’s death

by craig at electionforum.org.

In over 40 years of ministry, Rick Warren has never gone 16 weeks without preaching a sermon.
But after his 27-year-old son Matthew committed suicide, the result of a lifelong battle with depression, he retreated from the public eye to spend time with God, family and friends. For 4 long months, he grieved and processed this devastating loss.
At his first weekend back since his son’s death, he recounted to over 33,000 church attendees how for 27 years, he prayed every day for God to heal Matthew’s mental illness.
“And yet that prayer was never answered,” Warren said. “It didn’t make sense! We went to the best doctors in the nation, we had the best medications, we had the best therapies, we had prayer…we had an incredibly strong family: deeply loving, supportive, full of faith.” Even still, nothing happened.
As Warren and his wife Kay spoke, they didn’t try to neatly answer the “why” question. “It’s the wrong question,” Warren argued. “When in pain, explanations don’t help. Stop looking for an explanation. It’s not going to make you feel better…you don’t need an explanation; you need God.”
Warren realized that a stigma exists around the world with mental illness.
Somehow, it’s viewed differently than other types of physical illnesses, but it shouldn’t be. “Your chemistry is not your character,” Warren proclaimed, “Your illness is not your identity.”
Warren claims that the greatest epidemic in our world today is hopelessness. And the only remedy for hopelessness is the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
With a new fervor, Warren plans to take that Gospel around the world through the vehicle of the church. “I’m back,” he wrote on one of his latest tweets, “And fearless after months in God’s presence.”